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Domestic Violence: Reaching the Employee/Victim
Domestic Violence: Reaching an Abusive Employee
Why Address Domestic Violence
Issues
An act of domestic violence occurs every 15 seconds. Still, it is uncommon
to want to intervene in a domestic violence situation. Many employers feel
domestic violence is not their problem, or they simply do not feel comfortable
addressing a situation of such a personal nature. It is not easy. Listed
below are some strategies for dealing with and approaching victims of domestic
violence in the workforce.
Why should an employer intervene? Primarily, because it is the right
thing to do. Economically, it is cheaper to save a current employee who
has been valuable to the company than to recruit, test, and retrain a replacement.
Legally, OSHA imposes a general duty on all employers to provide a safe
work environment. An employer could incur additional workers' compensation
expenses if the victim is injured while at the work place. Other areas of
impact include increased sick leave, increased absenteeism, reduced productivity,
and increased medical expenses.
The most positive advantage of working with an employee/victim is the
long-term impact on the person as an employee. The employee/victim will
be more productive and motivated to enhance the company's business. Doing
the right thing is an investment that will have a positive impact for both
the employee and the employer.
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Signs of Domestic Abuse
- Employee or co-workers' reports of the employee being injured by a domestic
partner.
- Employee shows feelings of fear and social withdrawal.
- Bruises or physical complaints that show evidence of assault.
- Intermittent crying and/or outbursts of anger while talking with a domestic
partner on the telephone or in person at the workplace.
- Pronounced disturbance of mood (e.g., frequent and prolonged periods
of depression, irritability, anxiety, and apathetic withdrawal).
- Increased absenteeism or reduced productivity.
- Spouse or partner makes disruptive visits to the workplace.
- Lack of concentration.
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Goals of Domestic Abuse Counseling
- Terminate verbal and physical abuse.
- Help employee/victim obtain counseling to build self-esteem, assertiveness,
and the confidence to end the abusive relationship.
- Return employee/victim to healthy and safe environment both at home
and at work.
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Strategies for Working with Domestic
Abuse Victims
Step 1: Talk to the Employee/Victim
1. Actively build trust with the employee/victim to
get accurate information. Use active listening skills, positive reinforcement
techniques, and non-threatening eye-contact.
Proactive Listening:
- Show interest in what the employee/victim has to say.
- Ask questions.
- Show empathy.
- Respond verbally and non-verbally.
- Don't change the subject.
- Clarify what you hear.
Good Eye Contact:
- Look at the employee; Don't try to stare them down.
- Take breaks in eye contact if the person starts to feel uncomfortable.
- Use nods to encourage discussion.
- Don't invade the employee's space-lean forward slightly.
Positive Reinforcement:
- Plan for the future with the employee/victim.
- Highlight past accomplishments.
- Give specific feedback ... constructive and positive.
- Summarize your support for their success.
2. Find a comfortable environment to meet with the employee/victim
one-on-one.
3. Confront the employee about abuse to identify nature, frequency,
and duration of abuse. (Expect initial denials of existence or seriousness
of abuse.)
4. Coach the employee/victim to terminate self-blame for the abuse
and place responsibility on the perpetrator.
5. Decrease employee's feelings of shame and guilt by affirming the
perpetrator as being responsible for abuse.
6. Remind the employee/victim that abuse is illegal and criminal. Discuss
various options with employee (legal, housing, counseling, financial assistance,
etc.).
7. Educate the employee on any leave of absence or transfer policies.
8. Discuss the consequences of abuse with the employee/victim.
- How it affects the employee/victim's work.
- How it affects his/her family life.
- How it threatens his/her safety, the safety of loved ones, and the
safety of co-workers.
- Discuss the necessity for change and brainstorm ideas for change.
Step 2: Provide Active Support to the Employee/Victim
1. Refer the employee to counseling (offer to help locate appropriate
counseling and make the initial appointment). Use company and community
resources to help him or her find support groups. Counseling services are
offered through church groups, United Way agencies, and company support
programs.
2. Help employee/victim make an appointment with a medical doctor if
injuries exist. Use the employee's primary care physician or the provider
directory for HMO or PPO to make a referral. Also look for referrals for
emotional counseling.
3. Provide assistance in contacting a lawyer and obtaining a protective
order, if necessary. Local community resources may include your local bar
association, Legal Aid and/or volunteer lawyers. To pursue criminal charges,
contact the local District/County Attorney.
4. Reassure the employee that he/she will be allowed time off to attend
counseling or court appointments.
5. Help the employee/victim locate shelter or alternative living arrangements.
Step 3: Know Your Community, State, and National Resources
1. Encourage the employee to use available resources.
- National Resources
YMCA/YWCA (Local Chapter)
National Organization for Victim Assistance: 1-800-TRY-NOVA
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: 1-800-537-2238
Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE
Family Violence Legal Line: 1-800-374-HOPE
- Web sites
www.domesticviolence.org
http://www.cyfemet.mes.umn.edu
- Books and Reading Materials
- The Courage to Heal (Bass & Davis)
- Betrayal of Innocence (Foward & Buck)
- Outgrowing the Pain (Gil)
- Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—from Domestic Abuse
to Political Terror (Judith Herman, M.D.)
- Local Resources.
2. Make a plan with the employee/victim:
- What resources will he/she contact first?
- What kind of assistance or support is needed?
- What kind of continuing education would he/she like to receive?
- What types of on-site training are available?
3. Follow up with the employee to see what progress is being made.
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Why Address Domestic Violence
Issues
The first section addresses why an employer should attempt to reach victims
of domestic abuse. Reaching perpetrators of abuse is equally important.
The main legal issue is the impact of the abusive employee on other employees.
If an employee exhibits violent tendencies in the workplace, the employer
may be liable for personal injury or workers' compensation claims caused
by the employee. OSHA also places a general responsibility on employers
to provide a safe working environment. Allowing an abusive employee to continue
to exhibit abusive behavior could be a breach of that duty. Negative or
aggressive behavior also impacts the morale and productivity of other employees.
Addressing domestic and workplace violence issues is relatively inexpensive
and a positive way to promote employee morale, reduce turnover, and address
production issues in your workplace.
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Signs Someone is Engaging in Domestic
Abuse
1. Employee expresses attitude of domination and aggression toward
domestic partner or co-worker, or threatens or discusses threats to partner
or children with other co-workers.
2. Outbursts of anger while talking with a domestic partner or co-worker
on the telephone or in person at the workplace.
3. Spouse, partner, or co-worker of employee appears to be afraid of
employee and becomes submissive in the abusive employee's presence.
4. Employee has been accused of or charged with abusing partner, child,
or other household member.
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Goals of Domestic Abuse Counseling
1. Terminate verbal and physical abuse.
2. Help employee/perpetrator obtain counseling to end abusive behavior.
3. Convince employee/perpetrator that serious consequences will ensue
if abusive behavior does not stop.
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Coaching Strategies
Step 1: Talk to the Employee/Perpetrator
1. Identify specific behaviors that indicate a tendency toward abusive
behavior (include the nature, frequency, and duration of the behavior).
Expect initial denials of existence or seriousness of abuse. Use good coaching
and probing techniques:
Proactive Listening:
- Show interest in what the speaker has to say.
- Ask questions.
- Show empathy.
- Respond verbally and non-verbally. Don't change the subject.
- Clarify what you hear.
Constructive Feedback:
- Identify specific behavior you want to correct or coach.
- Describe the effect of the behavior on other people or the spouse.
- Make a commitment to work with the employee to resolve the issues.
- Agree on a plan of action. Conclude with a commitment to success.
Good Eye Contact:
- Look at the person; Don't try to stare them down.
- Take breaks in eye contact if the person starts to feel uncomfortable.
- Use nods to encourage discussion.
- Don't invade the speaker's space-lean forward slightly.
2. Find a comfortable environment to meet with the employee/perpetrator
one-on-one.
3. Encourage the employee/perpetrator to be accountable for behavior
by not allowing him/her to make excuses or blame the victim or others for
abuse. Place responsibility on the employee as abuser.
4. Make the employee/perpetrator aware of possible consequences of
the abuse (e.g., effect on productivity, professional relationships, and
criminal charges, if applicable).
5. Express zero-tolerance policy of abusive behavior.
6. Coach the employee/perpetrator that violence is a learned behavior,
and that it can be unlearned with the professional assistance of a counselor.
7. Convince the employee that domestic violence affects the employee's
life both at work and at home. It impermissibly threatens the safety of
others and requires change. Discuss:
- How it affects the employee/perpetrator's work.
- How it affects his/her family life.
- How it threatens the safety of loved ones and the safety of co-workers.
- Discuss the necessity for change and brainstorm ideas for change.
8. the employee/perpetrator of your commitment to his or her rehabilitation.
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Step 2: Provide Active Support to Employee/Perpetrator
1. Refer the employee to counseling (offer to help locate appropriate
counseling and make the initial appointment). Use company and community
resources to help him/her find support groups. Counseling services are offered
through church groups, United Way agencies, and company support programs.
2. Reassure the employee/perpetrator that he/she will be allowed time
off to attend counseling appointments. Additional counseling may be available
under an insurance plan if issues arise related to drug or alcohol abuse.
Encourage the employee to use available resources for counseling, support,
or education.
3. Inform the employee/perpetrator that continued abusive behavior
will not be tolerated. Explain to the employee/perpetrator that his/her
position may be terminated if additional charges are brought against him/her
for domestic violence or violation of a spouse's or partner's protective
order.
4. Make a plan with the employee/perpetrator.
- What resources will he/she contact first?
- What kind of assistance or support is needed?
- What kind of continuing education would he/she like to receive?
- What types of on-site training are available?
5. Follow up with the employee/perpetrator to see what progress is
being made.
Support Resources
- Resources for Living
1-800-828-3555
- Women's Protective Services
- Local Domestic Violence Shelter
- Rape Crisis Center
- Family Counseling Services
- Catholic Family Services
- Adult Learning Center
- United Way-Help Line Packet
- Council on Alcohol & Substance Abuse
- Local Legal Aid
- National Resource Center On Domestic Violence
1-800-537-2238
- YMCA/YWCA
- www.domesticviolence.org
This information is not intended to be a substitute for the legal advice
of a licensed attorney. If you have any questions regarding a particular
issue or topic we suggest you seek legal counsel.
For Further Information on the Domestic Violence in the Workplace
Please Contact:
- TEXAS YOUNG LAWYERS ASSOCIATION
- 1414 Colorado, Suite 501
- Austin, Texas 78701-1627
- (800) 204-2222 - x 6429
This brochure was produced by the 1998-99 and 1999-2000 Women and the
Law committees of the Texas Young Lawyers Association. Special recognition
and appreciation goes to committee members Sholeh Johnson and Brandi Fernandez.
Without their energy and valuable assistance this brochure would not have
been possible.
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